Five Pillars Of Morality.

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Every one of us is oblivious of his own wrongdoing and is upright in his own esteem. Here lies a difficulty and there must therefore be some basic guidelines, by which we can examine our own actions, and principles that we must be mindful of all the time.

Truth is that which is, beyond individual perception and belief. Truth commands respect. There is a certain sanctity to truth. An admission or acknowledgment of the truth is often the starting point for reason. Besides that, truthfulness makes things uncomplicated and straightforward. Fairness is justice all around. It is central to cooperation among people. Fairness helps preserve trust and closeness. Injustice on the other hand is born out of greed and often imposed by intimidation. Injustice destroys harmony and peace and produces conflict. Kindness is the cornerstone of morality. There is kindness in every person if only we dispose-off the muck that we cover ourselves in. An unkind act causes distress to another and we must, for instance, reject any ideology or call that advocates mindless hostility and cruelty towards others. Self-forgetfulness is necessary in as much as we do not make truthfulness and fairness and kindness subordinate or secondary to our interest or to those or that to which we are attached or committed. We must be especially wary of egotism and group-loyalty which ever so often leads us astray. The other obstacle is fear. Fear inclines us irrespective to stand with the crowd or to take the undemanding path rather than brave difficulties. Courage finally is indispensable to moral conduct.

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You Are Magnificent!

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An infant attempting to walk, picks himself up every time that he stumbles and persists till he gets better at it and walking becomes commonplace. For the child it is simply about pushing the limits towards reaching his or her potential. But at some point in our childhood things change. You become self-conscious and concern yourself with the opinion of others and you are then plagued with self-doubt. Or you were ridiculed and it hurt and you do not want to feel that way again and so you withdraw into a shell and make yourself invisible, or deal with it by forever bragging and making yourself out to be something larger to conceal a deeper feeling of inadequacy. Self-doubt and self-consciousness must on no account be allowed to take root in your subconscious. These are thought patterns that are formed because you have been again and again thinking in that manner and a consequence of your telling yourself that you are not good enough or that you cannot do this and that. Parents, many a time unknowingly, are also to blame for this and so are educators and our institutions. As a result you come to believe that you are weak or a sinner or that you hold no influence. When at the core of your being and underlying everything; you are complete and perfect and the very basis of goodness. Rather belief in one’s self should be taught and entrenched from an early age – to never think that anything is impossible for you or for others and to work always with never-ending courage and energy and persistence, like the infant attempting to walk that picks himself up every time that he stumbles.

What Are Your Core-Values?

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What core-values must we instill in our children so that they do not make a mess of their adult lives? ‘Instill’ is perhaps the wrong word because I believe we are born with these and move away from them as we grow up. Then again the message is often corrupted. For instance a child that is told to do good and good will come unto him or her (which is not necessarily the case) misses the point and the inherent benefit of doing so, and gives it up when experience shows otherwise. Moreover much of what passes as values is shallow, needlessly restraining and even harmful.

There is I believe a set of indispensable all important core-values that is all one need have. That inevitably take the individual to happiness and if followed by others to the well being of all. That are universal, not contradictory to reality, and are so basic that they remain true to the test of time irrespective of change in circumstances, or technologies, etc. Values that have their basis or belong to the very core of our being and counter the ego that takes us astray. They are – truthfulness or respect for truth, kindness towards others, and self-forgetfulness. To give examples, it calls for looking to do what is right or fair rather than what is in one’s self-interest, taking joy and sorrow not only in our own but also in the fortunes of others, acting with a magnanimity of spirit, and to be unaffected by egotism, the behavior of others or their opinion of us.

The persona or ego is insecure and looks to establish itself through ownership or position in a world that in a sense it itself has constructed. It is ephemeral and constantly building itself as something real and needs to believe in the world-illusion that mutually sustains it. It is for this reason all the time serious. A final ingredient to this concoction of core-values is to not take everything too seriously and to move on. That is to say, to not be overly critical, or unforgiving, and the like.

A Commitment To Effort.

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Are qualities like ambition and aggression and arrogance essential to achievement? Ego is an exaggerated sense of separateness from the rest of life. The above mentioned qualities are an outcome of our ego and in turn also nourish it.

Cannot for instance the desire to contribute or love (as a feeling of oneness) be a driver to action? Somehow I feel compelled to propose here that no work of beauty or creativity or genius has ever been the product of ambition or aggression or arrogance of a puffed up ego.

Or else cannot one simply be committed to effort, to attend to ones vocation or whatever challenge life brings forth with all one’s heart and mind. Not driven by greed, yet every moment to give your 100% effort to doing what you must do.

A common misconception is that religion calls for a life of inaction (in opposition to existence and the movement of life) or for us to renounce the whole lot and move to a cave in a forest far away from any contact with people. When by renunciation, what is asked to be given up is merely selfish attachment and ego involvement.

Children Are The Future.

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Every one of us (well the majority of us anyway) are for the most part in the rat race. We are relentlessly trying to get ahead, whether in the workplace or on the social ladder. We have very little time for family life or friends. Ambition, aggression and arrogance are especially desirable qualities. Sacrifices are made and morality takes a backseat. And we must prepare our children for the rat race? Naturally every race has its losers and the newspapers are full of reports of suicide, crime, drug abuse, alcoholism, separation and stress associated ill-health. But even to those of us that are fortunate to be amongst the winners, something doesn’t quite hold right. Why are we in this rat race in the first place? Is it because we know no better and suppose that being ahead will bring us happiness?

Everything that we want is desired not for its own sake, but for the reason that we believe it will make us happy. In that case we need to change the question. As a parent I wish for nothing more than for my children to be happy. So the question ought to be – how do we prepare our children so that they lead happier lives? The traits that we encourage in our children nowadays are not going to make them very nice people and besides can only cause them misery. Our own experience will tell us that we are unhappy whilst we are envious or hateful. On the other hand children are happy to be simply playing, or doing activities that interest them, or just being with or helping their friends. May be to begin with we should be reminding them that these are truly important and get us happiness and must on no account be given up.