Fears take root at an early age and then we carry these into our adult life. Parents for instance can be over protective, warning children against this or that and asking them to be careful. Then again you obey your parents and teachers. You do not question them. You want to please them. You believe this is being good and any transgression will invite punishment. The other thing is that a child’s mind oftentimes exaggerates or even mistakes a threat. What perhaps was a mild chastisement, can be experienced and remembered as something huge. This then becomes a willingness to submit and a fear of authority. Or the fear of not matching up to the expectation of others or of making a mistake. Or you felt a certain way when admonished by a teacher in class or when teased by friends and you did not want to feel that way again. So, you insulated yourself. You made yourself small or did not express your views or did not participate (unless you were perfect at it and perhaps even then not). And you do this again and again till it became a habit – selling yourself short. What is more, showing yourself is central to forging relationships. Besides now you’ve come to see failure as something bad and for that reason do not put yourself into anything that is challenging. When it is okay to fail and failing is part of the process to eventually succeeding. Or you were bullied in school and now seek power and wealth so that you never have to face that kind of vulnerability and humiliation again. Or you are unwilling to follow your heart or break loose from a bad situation, all because you fear uncertainty and want to be in control of things. We all carry unknowingly in our subconscious a burden of fears that weighs us down. Our lives are directed by fear of this and that. All you are ever doing is following instructions or doing what is expected of you. What will so and so say or think. I might not get this opportunity again. If not now, it might get too late. This is the way it has always been. What if things don’t work out or I don’t make it. What if this or that happens…. You study, get married, your career choices, what and how you lead your life and the rest of it are all for the most part out of fear. Surely fear has its place. It keeps us from harm’s way. But now it is everywhere, in your relationships… you even pray to a God that you fear. There is the constant undercurrent of fears. There is no free-will. Now imagine a mind free of fear, clear of anxiety of any sort. That is real freedom. Don’t take yourself too seriously. Put yourself out there. Embrace uncertainty. Who can say what leads to what or what will happen? Leave it to Him.

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