One person is arrogant and another is terribly shy. Both these individuals are full of themselves. Whereas happiness comes from self-forgetfulness. For most of us this happens only sometimes when we are absorbed in work or playing a sport or listening to music, or when we connect with other people. Most of the time however, we are comparing ourselves to others, imagining what people are saying about us, thinking about what kind of impression we’re creating. And then we are all the time trying to be like other people, seeking to please them, always endeavoring to be regarded highly.

In the Mahabharata Arjuna asks Krishna why Karna and not he-Arjuna is held in higher esteem. Some days later to show why, Krishna gives Arjuna a mountain-load of gold and asks him to give it to a village. Over the next few days Arjuna personally goes about distributing the gold amongst the villagers deciding who gets how much. The villagers were thankful and happy and sang praise of Arjuna’s generosity. And Arjuna gave perhaps a little grudgingly for at the end of it all there is still a great deal left to give out. So, Krishna calls Karna and assigns him the task. Right away Karna on spotting a group of villagers gives away all the gold and asks that they share it with the rest of the village. After that he walks away unaffected just like that unconcerned about what people think and perhaps wary of praise that could lure him out of his peace and composure.