Much of what we do every day is not the result of conscious deliberation. We are as if on autopilot mode acting and reacting out of habit. And it is not necessarily a bad thing. Being mindful all the time of everything that we do would take up a lot of energy. Only some habits can be menacing and put up hurdles to where we would like to go with our lives and to our happiness. For this reason it is essential to recognize our habits for what they are, to become aware of the mechanism at work, and to know that it is we who have power over them and not the other way around.

Repeated actions turn into habits. You have been thinking in a particular way. That is all there is to it. These are subconscious patterns that you are predisposed to out of familiarity. You have the choice nevertheless between taking the accustomed and charting out new roads (or neural pathways). We feel we are helpless before our habits when in actual fact unwanted habits can be willfully weakened by starving them of the act. Similarly helpful habits can be cultivated or nurtured by consciously doing the thing over and over till such time it acquires the force of a habit and becomes the usual.